Wednesday, December 5, 2012
Divorce
In my class this week something we learned about was divorce. First of all it makes me sad that people are divorcing. I wish it was not like that. I wish when people got married it would stay like that forever. We learned a few different things about divorce this week and we had the chance for my teacher's wife to come in and talk to us. She got a divorce then married our teacher. At the time she had two different kids. We learned about how it was a diffiult adjustment for them, especially with two kids. We learned that in most cases people who get a divorce once are most likely to get another one. This made me really sad. But the example of my teachers marriage gives me hope for people. It can work. Sometimes it may be hard but if you really want something I believe if you work hard enough you can achieve it. Same goes for marriage.
Monday, November 26, 2012
Fatherhood
Fatherhood Paper
The article
I read was really good and it pointed some good points to being a good father
and talks about things that should be done as a father. It gave some valuable
advice so ill take some time and expand on them.
Have
fun. Sometimes people think that being a
father is always about being serious and not showing any type of notion of
wanting to have fun. But you must show both sides and not be only one
sided. From doing this you will show
your kids that you enjoy being their father. It may be that when you are always
serious your kids won't think you love being their father and that they are
only a burden to you. We don't want that.
We should be
a teacher by both word and action. Children need to be taught what is right and
what is wrong. But they need to see it done by their father. It is easy to criticize
kids for their mistakes. However, they need .to see fathers make decisions.
Explain why a certain decision is the right one. Sit them down and tell them of
past decisions and how they went wrong or you can tell them how they were
wrong. Teach them that it is ok to
mistakes but the most important thing is that we learn from those mistakes.
Tell them your experiences.
Respect your
children's mother. It is important to
show your children that you care and respect their mother. Children are known
to mimic the actions of their parents. So you don't want them to see you not
respecting their mom. Show them the true meaning of what love is and what
respect it. Make parenting a partnership.
Show affection.
Sometimes men are afraid to show affection.
That can't be the case when you are a father. It is important that your
kids know you love them. Your love is what will help them grow to be good
people. You can't just show them you love them by buying them nice things and
let them do whatever they want. You need to tell them with words that you love
them and want the best for them in life.
The job of
being a father is never done. You can't
think that once your children are out of the house at age eighteen that our job
is done. That goes for being a parent. Not just a father. You will obviously
have to let them know that they need to become independent but don't let forget
you still care for them. Let them know that you want to do what you can to help
them.
As I take
time and think about the time that I have had with my father I can easily see
that he did the things above really well. Something that has always impressed
me with my dad is the love and respect he has shown to my mom. In my time
growing up I have never seen them argue. There have been times where I can tell
that maybe he didn't agree with my mom but it was never worth raising his
voice, especially in front of his children. I think about this and even though
I am not married it gives me some type of excitement to do the same to my
future wife.
My dad is
really well off financially. This has taught me a few things. One is that hard
work pays off. Also, he has never just given us anything for free. If we have
wanted something extra then he makes us work for it. I know that sometimes when
parents have a lot of money they get their kids nice cars or nice phones but
that has never been the case with my dad. He doesn't spoil us. He gives us what
we need.
My dad has
always taken time to show us that God comes first. That for me is the most
important lesson he taught me in my youth. That has shaped who I am today. When
we put God first then we are blessed.
As I look
ahead for when I am a father I know there are certain things I will do to make
sure I am a good father. The first thing I will do is teach my example and not
only by word. I want my children to look at me and see my actions and know they
are good. I can't just tell them to do things without doing them myself.
I want to
include God in all my decisions. I know that by doing so I will be a lot more
successful than I would be if I made decisions alone. This also goes for my
wife. We will make decisions together. It can't just be me making all of the
decisions. That will not go that far if I do it like that.
I just want
to be healthy as my kids grow up. This will allow me to do activities with them
and that will only strengthen our bond we have. In my opinion it is important
to be physically active with your kids. I have seen the positive effect it has
had on the relationship with me and my father.
Sunday, November 18, 2012
Family Counsel
This week in my class something that really hit me was the importance of family counsel. Now, I do not know how your family has done it and what experiences you have had but I want to take some time and share with you some things that I have experienced with this in my time growing up. Once a week there was a time set apart for the members in my family to discuss problems going on in the family and also just different schedules. I found this helpful for a different reasons. The main one is so there weren't any hard feelings between us. We would just talk openly about different things. It was always nice being on the same page as my brothers and sisters. I am talking about schedules. We are seven in total in my family so at times things could be a little crazy. Talking and planning made things easier. This is just one of the many things I will take away from my parents and the way they did things. Feel free to comment and share with me some of the experiences you have had.
Sunday, November 11, 2012
Something to think about...
Some of the
things that have been weighing heavily on my mind lately have to do with how a
family crisis can actually benefit us in the end. I think that sometimes in the
crisis we are in we are quick to be angry. We are sometimes angry at ourselves
or at God or at the person who is doing us harm. I in my own life have been
this way. I regret it very much. I look back on certain situations and try to
take the good from it and not the bad. We are given specific situations from
God for a certain reason. They only help
us grow to be better people in the future. There was a time in my life where I
felt hurt from God and my family but now that I look back on that time I feel
grateful for it and everything I learned. Now in my life when I am going
through a tough time I try to keep God in the picture and it really helps. When
we take God out then everything loses its sense. I am sure that if you were to
look back on a certain family crisis in your life you would be surprised to see
all the good things it brought to you. It may sound weird and you may think I
am crazy but I challenge you to do so. Let me know how it goes.
Monday, October 29, 2012
Recently in my class we did a cool project and I would like to share it with you. Enjoy.
My family could be compared to many different things but I
personally think that it could best be compared to a car. You might ask
yourself how can a group of people be compared to a car? It will easy to
explain.
A car can be
complex. There are literally thousands of parts that are put to together to
make a car perfect. It is not just one piece. And definitely these thousands of
different parts help the car function as a whole. Example, a car will not
function without tires nor could it function properly and complete its duties
without fuel. But when all these things combine and come together to make one
then will it be able to work. The same can be said about my family.
My family
consists of six different individuals. I say "different" because in
my family we are very separate beings. In some cases people have families where
they believe they are the same but with me and my family we are different. That
is what makes us unique. I would like
take six different key parts of any car and compare it to my family.
The engine
of the car can be compared to our Mom.
An engine is known to be the heart of a car. There are people who like to show off
their engine to their friends and people they know. People have been known to
compare engines of their cars with others. I have seen that pattern with kids
and their moms. Especially with me and
my mom. She is simply just great and there are many reasons why I brag about
her to other people. Whether it be for the food that she cooks or the love that
she gives to her kids. The engine can be just like that. They brag about
engines and what kind they have in their car and I seem to do the same with my
mom.
My Dad is
much like the gas that is put into a car. We all know that gas is what makes a
car run for the most part. Without gas the car isn't going to go anywhere. He is the supplier of the family. Ever since
I am able to remember he has worked hard for this family. Along with working hard
he has taught us to work hard as well. However, gas for a car does not come cheap. It
can be very expensive. If you want to drive the car you must be gas in it. The
same is with my dad. For him to supply for our family he has to make some type
of sacrifice. If you want gas in the car you must sacrifice money that you have
worked for.
My little
brother of 21 years old has always been somewhat of the riot starter of the
family. Not saying he is a bad kid but he loves to tease a lot and cause little
arguments that sometimes takes away from the unity of the family that we should
have. He is much like the cigarette
lighter inside of the car. He has always been the starter to a "
fire".
My two
beautiful sisters in my family are the ones who always try to keep peace within
the family. When we start to argue or cause contention within the family they
are always the first ones within the family to try stop it and bring peace in
the family. One younger sister can be compared to the governor of the car. The
governor is there to stop you from speeding at a dangerous speed. It keeps you
in check. My sisters are much like that.
My younger
sister of twelve years old is the body of the car. She is what keeps us all
together when times get rough. She is the special one of the family. She has a
disease that doesn't let the bones in her head form like that of a normal
person. She at the age of 12 and has already had a13 surgeries. So in short she
keeps our family in check when it comes to being humble and especially with
being more spiritual and closer to the lord. She is the angel.
I have a
little brother who is seventeen. He is the youngest of the men in the family.
That has led him to be more comparable to the wheels of the car. He goes with
the flow. He does for the most part what his siblings do. And for being the
youngest brother in the family he takes a beating. Not bad but you know how
older brothers have to make a statement clear that they are the " alpha
brother" of the family.
As for me I
would consider myself as the driver of the car. Especially when my parents are
busy and maybe don't have the chance to make dinner one night or get the house
clean. I have always been the one who steps up and makes sure these things get
done. For me it has always been like this because I am the oldest sibling of
the family. I see it as my responsibility. I love driving my siblings to be better people
for our parents. I am not perfect but I try hard as I am the oldest.
It has been
interesting to see growing up how my family has interacted with each
other. It is easy to see how the roles
that I described above come into play. For example. For me to take action and
be more of a leader among the siblings my younger brother has to cause
contention. For my mom to be the one who
cares for her kids there needs to be a need from us.
However, my
family is sometimes not like a car. A car works together as one and the parts
of the car is always doing what it needs to be doing. But there are times when
my family does not work as smoothly as a car does. Also, we often switch roles
within the family. It is not always my brother of twenty one years old causing
contention. Sometimes it can be me or my sister. There are times when my
sisters keep us men in check. So you see, it isn't perfectly like a car.
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
This week in my class one of the things we studied was the difference in cultures and their beIiefs. I personally don't think all the cultures in the world are the same in the sense of right and wrong. For example, there may be something that here in our culture something is right. Or it is right in our eyes. I would think it is right to us because we have grown up with the belief or moraliblity. However, if we go to somewhere else in the world they will have a different belief or moral on that thing. I believe that all cultures can contain truth however. Truth can be found in a lot of different places. Not just here in Idaho in a community where it is majority members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. But as members of the church we do have the " whole" truth. That is a blessing we have been given. But with that blessing comes great responsbitly. But overall there is a right and wrong in the eyes of God.
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